"Well, I guess you're right there," Tom admitted reluctantly, "but if he wasn't a homosexual, why in heck would he be traipsing around all decked out like a fashionable woman all those times, and why did he do it only from a motel?"

"Right there is where we get to the meat of this piece," I explained. "I want to show by this fictional beginning that there are many men who are heterosexually inclined; who love women; who are happily married and fathers of families; who support their families with good and responsible jobs; who are often very active in church and community affairs; who many times are highly educated, like doctors, ministers, lawyers, or scientists; who have never had any taint of immorality or illegality about them; who may very well have high government security clearances; who, in short, are respectable and respected members of the community but who nevertheless love to express part of themselves in the gender role of a woman."

"Well, that's sure news to me," Tom admitted, "I never heard of that sort of thing before. I always supposed that any man with much inter- est in things feminine was automatically queer, or 'gay', I guess they call them. If guys like this aren't gay, then I again ask what goes on, why do they go to all that trouble? There must be a lot of expense with all that second wardrobe, and the worry and apparent secrecy of dressing up only when they can go on an extended trip to other cities, and having to hide their feminine clothes in locked cabinets in the garage, etc. I should think it would be a terribly frustrating existance."

"It is," I answered, "and inadvertently you've given part of the answer to your own question when you said that you thought all men with feminine interests of any kind were homosexual. You were not voicing only your own opinion, but that of a large portion of society. Earlier you referred to 'those perverted queens' in a very derogatory tone of voice. In doing so you revealed another widespread social attitude, the condemnation that society heaps on the homosexual. I don't go along with that attitude. I believe in a philosophy of 'live and let live' so long as you don't tread on anyone else's rights in the process. Now understand," I continued, "I'm not trying to make a case for homo- sexuals, that's their problem and they'll have to work it out as best they can. In this article, I'm trying to explain about these other guys who are not homosexual, who go for women just like you and I do. As a matter of fact they go for women even more than you and I and other men do because they not only love them in bed, but admire them so much

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